Seven kinds of sex couples can try

Question: How spicy should our sex life be? We have sex 2-3 times a week but I'm afraid we might be boring. What kinds of sex should we be having so we can be sure we have a decent and healthy sex life?

Answer: Couples often wonder what kinds of sex everyone else is having, and are they having "enough"?

In terms of positions, there are many in the world - thousands of books beginning with the tao of sex and the Kama Sutra have been written and no doubt blogs and books about sexual positions will continue to be written. People love to explore their bodies and pathways to pleasure with one another.

But sex isn't only about the position and the frequency. Generally there are categories of sex.

Just as you wouldn't eat the same meal for dinner every night, or even eat only the same dessert, or listen to one song on a loop for years on end, sex needs some variety to keep it interesting - and that means changing it up more than how often you do it or who is on top.

The seven types of sex you should have for a healthy, balanced and spicy sex life are (and there are more too - and feel free to make up your own).

Quickie sex

Fast is not a bad word. It's just bad if it's the only word to describe your sex life. Sometimes, practically speaking, and for fun too, a quickie is just the thing to put some zip - or unzip - into your day.

Gourmet Sex

This is when you take longer and indulge in each other. Perhaps you play out a fantasy. Perhaps you start with a bath together and make an evening of it. Or maybe erotic massage is your thing. When you have longer than thirty minutes to spare, think about having long, drawn out sex that indulges your senses and stimulates you both from head to toe and everything in between.

No-sex sex

Sex without intercourse can often remind a couple what it was like at the beginning of their dating relationship, if they ever had a time when they weren't sexually intimate. But sex without intercourse also allows a couple to feel intimate without the pressure of penetration and intercourse, particularly if that has become a pattern. By having some sexual time together that doesn't involve intercourse, you become the ultimate creative couple in bed.

Morning sex

Testosterone levels tend to be highest in the morning and men, and women too, can feel a strong desire for sex in the morning. But often it isn't practical - the household is awake, the day feels like it must race on, work deadlines await, morning breath is, well, not the sexiest ... but all that aside, sometimes, it's the best way to start a day and feel loved and connected, rejuvenated and with an extra spark to you.

Kinky sex

Each couple needs to define kinky for themselves and kinky can mean different things at different ages and stages of a person's and couple's life. Experimentation helps couple to build on their intimacy and grow together ... and have fun together. Sex is your intimate recreation time together so try new things and laugh, or try new things and say, "Let's do that again. "

No-orgasm sex

Have sex without the pressure of having an orgasm. It's okay to say that you don't climax every time, or that sometimes you just want to be generous to your partner, or be the receiver of some generous, lavish attention. There has been a great deal of pressure to define sex as "meeting the goal of orgasm" and preferably simultaneously that it takes some of the pleasure just purely from touching skin to skin and enjoying each other's touch for touch's sake, away. You can have foreplay or intercourse and orgasm doesn't have to be a goal.

Spiritual sex

A lot of people are curious about things like tantric sex, which acknowledges the spiritual component of engaging with each other in an intimate way. Understanding as a couple that you choose to be this with one another, is not just a physical experience, but a deeply gratifying emotional one, and one all couples, however they do it, with feeling, will benefit from greatly, especially while they are naked. Emphasis is on breathing together, sharing feelings, preparing a safe and loving, stimulating space for sex together and enjoying who your lover is, not just how they touch you.

Southwest drug user drives 670+km for supplies, defends use

Premium Content Southwest drug user drives 670+km for supplies, defends use

A southwest Queensland man who travelled to the Sunshine Coast to buy drugs has...

Mum's last opportunity to sort out probation woes

Premium Content Mum's last opportunity to sort out probation woes

A Roma court has heard the woman has a repeated history of disregarding probation...

42,500 building licences ‘ripped up within weeks’

Premium Content 42,500 building licences ‘ripped up within weeks’

A warning has been issued to tens of thousands of builders